The Joy of Listening – Steve Beckow @ Golden Age of Gaia

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The Joy of Listening

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No One to Talk to

One of the costs of being a lightworker, aware of what’s transpiring, is that we want to tell others about it, but we get invalidated right and left when we do.

Either being ignored or ridiculed may cause us to close down.

Listening is like water to the plant

In that event, a good, long listening proves to be like water to the plant.  The plant blossoms – especially among lightworkers who’ve been doing so much clearing work anyways and are open to re-opening.

I watched it happen at the Bridge to Now when people really listened to each other. People unburdened themselves. Their faces changed.

It simply reinforced in me that listening has to be one of the most valuable gifts one person can give to another.

Around and around we go, looking for someone who’ll listen to us. Movies are done ridiculing us as co-dependent, weak-willed, etc.

I personally don’t think wanting to be heard is a neurotic thing. It can be in some people, I suppose.

But real listening is rare in our society so I can imagine people looking around for it.

One Message: Simply Listen

If there was one message I wish got through from all my work, it would be: Don’t talk. Don’t advise. Simply listen. That thread runs through 30 years of my life.

The prevailing habit of our society is to equate “contributing” with breaking in to another person’s share with a real game-changer that usually begins with “you should….”

We listen until we’ve made up our mind onour diagnosis and there our listening stops. We’re now framing our statement of advice and awaiting our opportunity to deliver it. You can see it in our face.

That isn’t listening. Not even close.

And what does the speaker do having been so derailed? Closes down, saying to themselves, “One more time I wasn’t listened to.” The advice usually falls by the wayside. If it was heard at all, it’s usually rejected almost immediately. The speaker is now too downcast to even consider it.

Counselling Experiences

When I was counselling in my Sociology doctoral years, I stopped advising when I saw that people weren’t listening to what I was saying. Not a word of it.

They simply wanted to return to their story and finish. They seemed to want me to shut up.

Under those conditions, problem solving didn’t work. I went with the flow instead, threw my agenda out the window, and simply listened. And, of course, being me, I really went at it, studying listening inside out and outside in.

I dropped all ideas of what I might get out of the exchange. I dropped any agenda that came up. I dropped the need to feel important, as in “I contributed the game-changer” – whatever it took to see what the power of listening was and could be.

Listening proved to me to be among the most powerful therapies, short of those that manipulate energy.

The hardest thing to do when listening is to drop the desire itself to make a difference because, unless we’re free of Third Dimentia, that can become another door leading back to advising.

  • When that red-hot idea comes up of a bright thing to say, consider dropping it and just listen.
  • When you wish you were doing something else, let that thought go too and sink down into listening.

Listening is Foolproof

Listening is foolproof. If we feed back to the other person our understanding of what they’ve just said, they’ll correct us if we’re wrong. Therefore we can’t go wrong.

So little of the seemingly-important things in life are taught in school – relationship, sexuality, parenting, and communication, including listening. (Who will plan the new curriculum?)

That new curriculum needs to have a course on listening.  It’s a learned skill, just as not listening is.

Many people say that they won’t go to a party or event because they have nothing to say. There are two perfectly respectable positions in an interchange: Speaking AND listening.

Everyone who speaks needs someone to listen to them. So there’s no need to excuse ourselves from events because we have nothing to say. If we genuinely have nothing to say, we can listen.

We’re missing out on the joy of listening – the joy of really making a difference in a person’s life by putting aside our needs and simply hearing another. Plain, bare, neutral awareness. Reception without judgment.

This role that truly makes a difference is so inconspicuous and modest that when you and the speaker produce a breakthrough or emergence, the speaker usually doesn’t know what just happened or how it happened.  Very, very seldom did a person I listened to know how the breakthrough occurred. So don’t wait for a comprehending thank-you or acknowledgment. This is a selfless activity. You have to acknowledge yourself here.

Few see that it was the listening itself that allowed them to put all the puzzle pieces on the table and see the big picture. Our society does not consider mere listening a significant contribution.

But never mind that. It is a significant contribution.

The more we understand that we cannot force people, that they have free will, the more we’ll understand the value of listening.

Discover the joy of it. Just sink down. Be present. Be neutral.

And simply listen.

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The Joy of Listening

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SURRENDER TO WHAT IS, THE EDUCATION OF ONENESS, AND MY MEETING WITH THE DALAI LAMA – Altair Shyam

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SURRENDER TO WHAT IS, THE EDUCATION OF ONENESS, AND MY MEETING WITH THE DALAI LAMA

ALTAIR SHYAM

Because I have been very sick recently I have been able to pay deep close attention to my body and its sensations, the very painful and the very calm and I notice I am getting better at accepting the body with all its limitations, which I have been rather averse to in the past. I push myself physically as I have performed in many sports to reasonably high levels and dealing kindly with restrictions this time round has proved a real eye-opener.

So I am learning many things in my exploration of the body.

Love, which has opened my compassionate heart to myself and others.

Humility, which for me is about accepting the limitations of this human form which I have been most reticent to do in the past.

Surrender, which has led to liberation.

Vulnerability which has given me different deepening levels of openness.

Authenticity through revelation, which to me is revealing who I truly am.

Deep listening, which has arisen from my compassionate heart that is opening.

Acceptance of the changes in myself.

Gratitude and appreciation for all of life.

So I think that the fruits of the tree of life are the most delicious of all.

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I was fortunate enough to be invited to a talk by the Dalai Lama two days ago and be chosen to have a dialogue with him on stage.

He spoke about the importance of education and universal values.

He explained that secular education in values like mindfulness and heartfulness, love and compassion, are amongst the most important things we can model and teach each other and our children.

Without presence, that internal state of authenticity where we are these values, that the we and our children so easily pick up on, we cannot transmit or transfer what we are teaching to each other or our loved ones.

This is what determines whether each of us and our children learn.

We discussed deep listening.

He said we all need compassion for health, because love and compassion generate a healthy immune system, whereas giving the body angry and conflicting or frustrated emotions and signals without mindfulness will break the body down through stress.

I thought this was very simple advice for us all in our ‘modern’ world with all its pushing-pulling energies in our busy hustle-bustle lives.

He spoke about Oneness.

Our common bond as human beings is love and compassion which brings health to the body mind heart soul while other emotions and thoughts like anger and frustration do not.

I asked him how to practice truly deep listening to each other’s hearts with compassion.

Basically he said to truly listen is a Buddha quality so be thankful firstly for the blessing. Gratitude is step one. Being grateful for each other and the uniqueness we bring.

The Buddha said “You are the Master” so it is important to develop self confidence.

So giving each other and our children confidence to realise their potential and being confident ourselves in what we share and teach is step two.

Once you have confidence in your Buddha abilities then study the Buddha’s sutras from India, since that is the original, the sutras on listening and heartfulness like the Heart Sutra from Avalokiteshvara/Guan Yin/Kannon-sama.

The sutras on mindfulness like the Anapanasati Sutra on the full awareness of breathing.

These are not religion, he emphasised, but study.

Then you can truly hear people.

He said “The world needs the affection of the mother who feeds the child in everyone’s hearts”

♥ ♥ 

ALTAIR

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Altair Shyam

Altair is a teacher, healer and mystic guiding the Way of Love, Unity and Harmony for the New Gaia that we are co-creating. He teaches that We are the Way and that our freedom to be our True Self is the key to transformation. “The miracles of God lie within Us. We are the Light. We are the Temple of the One Chakra whose Awakened Infinite Light Body brings all our dreams into reality.” With deepest Love and Devotion to My Divine Mother, Lady of the Earth, Guan Yin (from the Sanskrit root Guanyin/Kuan Yin/Kwan Yin) “The Divine Mother who perceives the Sounds and Cries of Mother Gaia and Her Children.”

 

This entry was posted in Altair Shyam on November 19, 2016.

PRAYER FOR UNITY AND LIBERATION – Altair Shyam

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PRAYER FOR UNITY AND LIBERATION

ALTAIR SHYAM

Dear Ones

Every morning and night I say a prayer for us

It goes something like this

“From my heart I go for refuge to the Christ, the Buddha, the Krishna, Divine Mother in us All.

To the Three Jewels, the Master in Us, the Dharma or path of pathlessness in us and the Sangha or community we share.

I will release all sentient beings from pain and set all in final bliss

To do that, I will generate an altruistic intention to attain perfect enlightenment

And thereupon will train in the learnings of Bodhisattvas, Archangels and Elders”

I would love to hear your prayer

In unity do we liberate each other

May the God Within Bless You All

Altair and Mother

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Altair Shyam

Altair is a teacher, healer and mystic guiding the Way of Love, Unity and Harmony for the New Gaia that we are co-creating. He teaches that We are the Way and that our freedom to be our True Self is the key to transformation. “The miracles of God lie within Us. We are the Light. We are the Temple of the One Chakra whose Awakened Infinite Light Body brings all our dreams into reality.” With deepest Love and Devotion to My Divine Mother, Lady of the Earth, Guan Yin (from the Sanskrit root Guanyin/Kuan Yin/Kwan Yin) “The Divine Mother who perceives the Sounds and Cries of Mother Gaia and Her Children.”

 

Prayer for Unity and Liberation